Friends, we have already talked about how to develop our humor. And today we’ll focus on how to make your jokes win-win and worthy of attention. Surely, you were in a situation when you decided to joke, but no one appreciated it. You didn’t think, maybe you did something wrong? Not every joke of yours can turn out to be successful. But for humor to be really funny, you should heed the advice you see below. Now you will learn all the secrets of quality performance in front of the public.
Let's talk about the rules of good humor.
1. Build associations
This is one of the main criteria for a successful joke. You need to quickly generate ideas in your head and pick up dozens of interpretation options for the situation. You have witnessed something or heard some news, instantly scrolled everything in your head - invent even the most primitive associations. One situation is several interpretations. One of them will definitely be the best, and it is worth voicing it. It’s great if the listener can immediately imagine what you said before your eyes.
Strictly observe self-censorship. What this means: you have to give quality, catchy and funny jokes. Avoid hackneyed topics, do not use cliches. If in response to an ordinary phrase, the interlocutor throws something like: "You’ve seen healthier!" No one will laugh. What is there, no one will smile. This is simply no longer funny and beaten. The above, and similar cliches will give you a complete lack of humor and the ability to come up with interesting jokes on your own. Generate a dozen jokes and choose one - the best. This choice will mean that you have a taste. And you are able to highlight what will hook the audience.
3. The ability to let yourself go
If you feel embarrassed in front of the audience and are not only unable to say a word, and you cannot even put together thoughts, then you need to learn how to let go of the situation. Sandwiched and shackled, you will be of no interest to anyone, this is the worst condition for a comedian. Try to relax and get together. Self-irony will help you feel more confident (we will talk more about it later). Think of advance answers to all sorts of jokes in your direction.
4. Share sincere emotions
It is always important to establish a confidential contact with the public and convey to them their emotional experiences. Audiences are always more pleasant to watch a comedian's frank performance than to listen to his stories on abstract topics that personally do not concern him at all. Understand that the most catchy stories are those in which you put your soul. Something sad happened and it seems you are not disposed to joke? But even such a situation can be presented in such a way that the public will perceive you with a bang. You probably noticed that most comedians do not miss the opportunity to share their personal and family life in a humorous way. Because the audience likes it. This is what always gives the opposite reaction. Why? Because many people recognize themselves in this humor.
5. The ability to find an analogy
Also a very significant criterion. You must learn how to easily and quickly find comparisons in sound and meaning. Suppose a phrase has several meanings, and you cleverly operate it in such a way that others think how it did not occur to them. Different phrases, things, situations and one common symptom are what you need for impeccable humor.
6. The ability to develop a paradox
Paradoxical things help in humor. Just look around and you will notice many situations in which there is a clear discrepancy. And think, if this is true, then what else could be true? Everything, the mechanism is running. Incredible ideas, one by one, begin to come into your head. We read the paradoxical news, and came up with several of the same jokes for it.
7. Clear wording
When you start to clearly and concisely formulate your funny stories, you will get more success in front of the public. No one will like to listen to a boring story with all the (extra) details for half an hour. Many in the middle will already understand what the author is leading to and will lose all interest in his speech. To always listen carefully, do not make such a mistake and do not switch to unnecessary, insignificant details. Follow the two rules:
- a minimum of words. The shorter the story, the more understandable it is for the audience and better.
- The funniest and most important word at the end of your joke. Build a story so that it is at the end that there is a semantic phrase. If after it another 3-4 words will sound, then they will be superfluous.
This algorithm will help you understand how to correctly and accurately joke in companies.
8. Find a good moment
The best joke is the one that was delivered on time, then it really "shoots." How to understand when it is time to apply your humor?
- Noticed an analogy.
- Noticed discrepancy, inconsistency, contradiction.
- Something stands out from the general background. Based on this and the preceding paragraphs, one can easily understand that the time has come to joke. Quickly generate ideas and get down to humor.
- And in the end, surprise the audience with an unexpected ending. It is especially important if they have already guessed what you are talking about.
9. Direct the excitement in the right direction
There is not a single person who would feel completely calm in front of an audience. Everyone who speaks (even says a banal toast) is worried. But it is important to use this feeling in the right direction. Instead of feeling constrained, trembling all over your body and shaking hands, direct your energy into speaking to the public. All the energy that is spent on jitters should be invested in your jokes. Excitement is normal. But you should forget about it, as soon as you start contact with the audience, you need to switch.
10. Self-irony is important
You have already read about the importance of self-irony in humor. You need to learn to laugh at yourself. Highlight all your shortcomings and turn them into your advantages. Come up with jokes about your imperfections that are noticeable to others. Suppose you are too fat or thin and tired of listening to friends' jokes, then come up with a dozen funny answers to them. If someone criticized your undertakings, do not enter into an argument and do not try to convince this person, it is better to immediately agree and do it with humor.
How to learn to joke and be fun: 2 exercises
- Pick up associations. You are given a situation, for example, a city in which it is always dark. Your task is to come up with all kinds of funny associations to it. That is, what is happening in that very city. Naturally, consider all the rules for building a successful joke.
- Humor and flaws. Write down all your obvious flaws on a piece of paper, and come up with some bright jokes for each of them. The better the jokes, the better you will be when someone once again decides to pin you up.
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Dear friends, humor is a part of our life, without which daily everyday life would be boring, and problems would drive us crazy. Jokes charge us with positive and add strength. And so that they are always appropriate and of high quality, that they are laughed at, memorized and quoted, efforts must be made.
Just because you don’t have a natural humorous skill means nothing. You can easily master the basic rules and not forget them when you once again decide to amuse the company. Now you know how to become witty and learn to joke. No matter where: in a conversation with the company, at the table, making a toast, at a celebration as a host. Your humor must always be of high quality. Create a mood for yourself and others! And in order not to miss the news of the blog, do not forget to subscribe.
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5 surefire ways to say funny things
Humor only seems to be a free, spontaneous and violent form of creativity. If you wipe a stupid smile from your face and seriously analyze what exactly causes laughter, you can isolate ready-made formulas of the ridiculous. Here are the most common and easiest to use of them. And although all of them are used, if you take them into service, this will greatly help your b / w.
1 They swapped
The most mechanical and easiest way to create a joke (or at least its semblance) is to swap two elements. It can be letters in a word (president - president), letters in a phrase (sweaty hands - company bunches), words in a sentence (to get from a distance of one hundred meters into the eye of a squirrel - to get a hundred meters from a distance of a squirrel) and something like that (Fedor Konyukhov - groom Fedorov). The main secret in applying this formula is speed. I heard a phrase suitable for a change-over, immediately turned it over - earned a smile (“And don’t forget to wash the dishes and throw out the trash!” - “Good! I’ll throw out the dishes, I’ll wash the trash!”). Of course, 99% of your shifters will turn out to be senseless nonsense, but even nonsense can cause positive emotions. Any boring news from the Vremya program will sparkle if the presidium Vedmedev takes part in it.
2 A new word in ...
Hundreds of phraseological units that you constantly use are so lost from use that neither you nor your interlocutors notice them. Blow dust off them, replacing one of the worn parts with a new one. Instead of “rave with fat,” say “rave with cholesterol”, instead of “stick and carrot method” - “stick and pizza method”, instead of “glue fins” - “glue skis (Skorokhod shoes”). Pay attention: the more appropriate the replacement, the more fun it turns out. If you replace the name of the flower with the word “baobab” in the expression “God's dandelion”, it will sound especially funny when the size of the old woman approaches the dimensions of the mentioned tree.
The direct meaning of words and expressions is a rich field for jokes. (“How are you after yesterday?” - “Like a cucumber! Green, and some suspicious pimples appeared on my chest.”) The essence of this method is not to pay attention to the context and circumstances, but to focus on any one, albeit not a very significant detail (“Hold the door” - “Do you think if you let it go, it will run away somewhere?”). Listen to everyday speech - you wonder how many reasons for such stupid jokes are hidden in almost every phrase ("You are two hours late again! What is it called?" - "Um ... I give up. Well, what is it called? The first time I hear this a riddle! ”).
4 Yes, more, more!
If you read us carefully, you probably noticed that we have used the technique of comic exaggeration in our journal for forty billion times. As comedian Bill Cosby once remarked, in mathematics 1 + 1 = 2, in humor 1 + 1 = 11 (“How long have you been waiting for us?” - “From September. 1989”). You often lie, take another step and begin to lie in the square: “I was so scared of this rustle that even my neighbors turned gray!” By the way, the formula “that even the neighbors have something there” is quite productive. Remember it and use it at every opportunity (“I got so drunk that day that even my neighbors got up in the morning with a headache.” “He weighs so much that even his neighbors had to go on a diet”).
5 Original stamp
Another algorithm for constructing a joke is a cliche turned upside down: a proverb, a saying, quotes from a song or film, etc. This is not the easiest way (you have to strain your imagination), but it’s also not the most difficult one (you have a stove, from which to dance). At the beginning of a joke, you take a cliche known to everyone for a run, then, pushing off from it, you jump and land completely not where you were waiting for.
“I am ready to give my right hand, if only to learn how to play the guitar!”
“I am ready to give my right hand, if only to become disabled!”
"I am ready to give my right hand, if only to become a lefty!"
“I am ready to give my right hand. I still have three of them. ”
We are sure that you will be able to continue to operate this cliche with one left.
Whom we have humbled with humor
Back in 1932, psychologist F. Goodinaf found out that a sense of humor is an innate skill, and not accepted by adults, like speech or the habit of smoking after sex. Deaf-deaf-mute babies in his experiments laughed from tickling along with healthy ones. But since scientists at that time had neither today's money nor a false sense of the significance of their work, Goodinaf’s ideas did not receive proper development.
Serious theories about the origin of humor appeared only at the end of the 20th century. Moreover, they were put forward by ethologists - researchers of animal behavior. For example, in 1998, J. Panksepp described a sense of humor in monkeys, canids, bears, and even, surprisingly, in rats. Of course, humor in this case needs to be understood in a broad sense: it is unlikely that a monkey can appreciate the comic nature of a situation when a person in different socks comes to her in the bank for an interview. However, all these animals are capable of two types of jokes. Firstly, peak-a-boo is when one animal scares another, pretending to be about to eat it, and then “laughs” at the fear of the victim. Secondly, public humiliation - when one male pushes off a branch or crushes another under himself, and then - oh well, gray, are you offended? Moreover, if the monkeys are equal in status, the victim has the right to retaliatory "joke", and the offender should not be offended. That is, he must give in the next time they will bring him down.
As another ethologist, J. Gamble, found out, such a meager supply of witticisms is due only to a lack of speech. As soon as gorillas or chimpanzees were taught sign language, they immediately began to joke much subtler (by monkey standards). For example, they deceived other monkeys that, they say, food was hidden under a stone, and then with a satisfied hoot they watched them tear their hairless asses up, raising a boulder. In addition, the big-eyed zoopsychologists Van Hoof and Preisoft found two types of reaction to jokes in monkeys and rats.
█ Grinning (lips rolled up, teeth naked and tightly clenched) - a kind of smile that the objects of the rally give out. Interestingly, the grin in a broader sense is a signal of submission. Therefore, it is necessary to recognize not only the phrase “Haha, of course!” But also “You are such a wit, Pal Palych!”
█ Play face (mouth open, lips extended, breathing becoming frequent) - a prototype of laughter. Animals use it to distinguish between game and reality. In childhood, when the cubs are trained, they often start fights, fuss and chases. If an adult runs after you and laughs - this is a game. If focused - apparently, on the horizon, a predator and you need to drape for real. Panksepp, by the way, found out that animals “without humor”, raised by serious individuals (who can’t show their playing faces due to injuries or a muzzle), are less adapted to life, solve problems worse and cope with stress.
How Tikhoni and ambitious laugh
To correlate the manner of laughing with the inherent character traits of a person, it is not necessary to be a psychologist. Watch people from a close circle, and you will notice that the smile of each of them corresponds to the image that has already developed in your imagination. Gestures and facial expressions accompanying laughter eloquently speak about personal qualities.
- Covering the mouth with your palm indicates that the person is not too confident in himself and is trying not to attract too much attention. Most likely, he is sensitive to criticism, prone to reflection and self-digging.
- Tilting the head indicates that the laughing person is open to the new, is easily involved in what is happening and enjoys life. He is not offended by trifles and is inclined to see the world in a pink light, often has leadership qualities.
- Theatrical grimaces and emotional gestures indicate that you are ambitious. He knows how to infect with fun, but longs for the audience to give full return in the form of general attention and compliments. Despite the apparent openness, it can be incredulous and cautious.
- Naughty and infantile people laugh, wrinkling their nose. They have seven Fridays a week. They tend to change attitudes, hobbies and priorities.
- If a person suppresses a smile, this indicates that he controls emotions, is as collected as possible, and this prevents him from enjoying the moment. Such people know how to achieve their goals, but nevertheless need the support of loved ones.
Humor and its targets
Каким бы ни был смех — весёлым, смущённым, насмешливым или загадочным, — он практически никогда не оказывается бесцельным. Согласитесь, что смеяться в одиночку — неинтересно, а смысл шутки и остроумного замечания — в возможности ими поделиться. Отсюда следует социальное значение юмора. It facilitates cooperation, helps to express solidarity, establish contacts and defuse the situation, can serve as an encouragement or punishment.
A developed sense of humor belongs to the most desirable qualities of a modern person. Our ability to react to the funny and joke undergoes a test drive at every step - with employment, joining a new team, communicating with friends and establishing relationships with the opposite sex. Stock up on a couple of jokes for different contexts, and you can originally fill out an awkward pause and make a favorable impression.
How to develop a sense of humor
A good sense of humor can be considered a form of giftedness, but it, like any other talent, lends itself to development. Even if you need a tablet with the inscription "Sarcasm", joke out of place and take other people's acuity literally, you have a chance to become the soul of the company.
The comic tools available to everyone were described by the teacher and inventor Yuri Tamberg in the book “How to Develop a Sense of Humor”. Here are a few universal tips, following which you can learn not only to sparkle jokes, but just enjoy life.
1. Learn to see the comic
Wit implies the ability to distinguish good from bad - to know the norms of behavior and recognize deviations from them. You can joke over stupidity, laziness, careerism, greed, infantility and other human vices. But, making fun of flaws, do not get personal - humor must remain kind.
2. Use associations
Learn to find common ground between dissimilar phenomena. The ability to make paradoxical analogies will help both to jokingly wit and to look at the world from a different angle.
Remember the school curriculum. Trails and stylistic figures (metaphors, metonyms, hyperbole, personifications, rhetorical questions) are an excellent basis for a witty remark.
4. Try to rhyme
Jokes in poetic form are remembered for a long time and speak of the versatility of the author. Few people know that the master of this genre was A. S. Pushkin (“I am captivated, I am fascinated, in a word - I am goncharovany!”).
For those who do not succumb to classical rhyme, there are genres of Internet folklore “pie” and “powder” (lazy fat and funny / the seal lies on the shore / I am not a seal but in the same way / I can).
Why be able to joke?
At first glance, it seems that a sense of humor is a completely optional skill in everyday life. It is enough to be purposeful, responsive, to have a broad outlook and life will improve on its own.
This opinion is easily refuted: a person presents a dull sight without a sense of humor. This is especially true for men who do not know how to maintain a conversation with a lady, while having a strange, humorous note.
Let's see why it is so important to be able to joke correctly:
- A life each person is so monotonous that fleeting jokes allow you to forget about pressing problems, to feel carefree.
- When communicating it’s extremely important for a man to skillfully joke with a girl: this can brighten up awkward pauses in a conversation.
- People, able to humor, in a society they accept much faster.
- Boring very few people like girls: it’s not necessary to specifically develop this feature, it will be enough to relate to one’s own life with a positive attitude.
To a person with humor, much more people are drawn than to bores.
How to get a sense of humor?
People with a developed sense of humor become a little happier. This happens because the attitude towards life changes significantly, the approach to problems is accompanied by comic notes.
To get a sense of humor, follow these guidelines:
- Read comedy works. As you know, the book is a guide to the world.
And if the volume with the story is riddled with well-chosen jokes - reading it will become more interesting.
The stories of Gogol, Zoshchenko, Averchenko, O. Henry will cheer up, send jokes in the right direction. Self-irony. Think of life situations with mild irony, as most modern comedians subtly do.
It is irony that can become much wiser and more cunning than any elaborate joke.
Try to look for humor in all surrounding situations: walking along the street you will notice a large number of signs with funny names that cheer you up.
It’s worth remembering that being funny and making fun of jokes are two different things. To understand how people react to humor, you need to watch them.
How to joke in any situation?
There is an opinion that it is difficult to achieve an appropriate sense of humor, because a person either initially knows how to be cheerful or will never become different.
But this statement is refuted by performing the simple exercises of the next section.
You should not attend a special school of humor, you need to pay attention to the recommendations presented and try to follow them:
|Learn to improvise||Perhaps for the development of this skill you will need jokes of famous comedians, examples of which are worth skillfully remaking in a new way|
|No repetition||Never repeat the same jokes in the company where they have already sounded - this characterizes a person as not a very good comedian|
|Give up vulgarity||Use in jokes of vulgar moments and obscenities is unacceptable - this indicates bad manners. This behavior is only allowed in a tight company.|
|Use tough jokes sometimes||Such options can be perceived as negative or positive - they will cause some emotions in a person, in contrast to harmless humor|
Receptions and Exercises
There are specially designed exercises, their implementation will gradually help to develop a sense of humor. Repeat them every day, soon achieve success.
The proposed exercises will help to start a cool joke:
- Scroll in your mind vocabulary, find words that have ambiguous meanings: it is from them that it is worth starting a training, making up jokes.
- Satirical irony. Begin joking experiments with the opposite: expressing the opposite opinion. For example, when you meet a friend in dirty clothes, tell him how beautiful he looks.
- Make up associations. The situation that causes laughter should be considered from all sides: write down on paper your associations, which lead friends into a cheerful tantrum.
In order not to accidentally encounter black humor in life, we recommend that you pay attention to the advice of psychologists.
Experts will help you understand the relevance of jokes and tell you how to quickly learn humor:
- Surround yourself with a positive company, so jokes will come to mind on their own.
- Find more positive situations in your life.
- Try joking at home.
- Gain confidence, stop criticizing yourself - this is the only way to take the first steps and learn to joke cool.
You can learn a good sense of humor even at school, but if this did not happen, pay attention to the suggested advice of psychologists and follow them daily.
Remember that laughter prolongs life, and positive thoughts help brighten up gray days and survive difficult life situations.
6. Fight the enemies of humor
Do not let yourself be discouraged, give up the notion that the world is dominated by negativity, and take time to relax, because mental and physical fatigue discolor life.
By learning to joke witty and aptly, you can win any audience, save yourself and others from the autumn blues and survive any life's hardships. Remember that before those who walk through life laughing, many doors open.