Of course, if a certain girl arouses your sympathy, and you hope for reciprocal feelings, then tell her about it, show in some way or hint. It is generally accepted that men often take the first step in expressing their feelings. Not all girls are ready to take the initiative in this regard, so even if you like a person who attracts you, you may not even know about it until you yourself indicate your position in relation to her.
It should be understood that many girls from childhood were brought up in such a way that it is unacceptable for them to be the first to show their sympathy to a guy. Perhaps she believes that this act will not put itself in the best light, because "decent girls are not imposed." It may be that she had a negative experience in her school years - she showed her sympathy, but did not get it in response. In any case, if you want to know exactly if you have a chance to build a relationship with this girl, you should make her understand that she is not indifferent to you. How best to do this, you can determine for yourself. Of course, the character of the girl, the duration of the meeting, and many other factors matter.
Moreover, it is important to remember that girls love determined guys, so even if she initially did not consider you as a potential partner, your recognition may make her look at you from a completely different perspective.
How to tell a girl about your feelings
When you are very afraid to admit
If you are afraid to admit your feelings and still can not do anything with this fear, then, apparently, you are completely not sure how exactly the girl treats you. In this case, you should get close to her in order to learn more about her, and understand what are your chances of being together. The process of rapprochement is better not to delay, so as not to move into the friend zone.
What you need to do for this:
- Be attentive to her - listen to what she is talking about, ask leading questions.
- Take an interest in what she does in her free time, what her mood is, whether everything is in order with her - be sympathetic.
- Try to cheer up her more often - with the help of jokes, smiles and so on.
- Show interest in her personality - what she likes and what not, what films she can recommend for watching and so on.
When she is your girlfriend
Remember, loving couples often form friendship unions - perhaps the same thing will happen in your case! Many girls secretly in love with their friends, but often try to overcome this feeling, fearing that it will be non-reciprocal and in the end they will lose each other. However, even if this is not so, your chances are very high, because if the girl is friends with you, then at least you are pleasant to her. You can start moving to the point by simply starting a conversation that she generally thinks about the friendship between a man and a woman, how frequent this is in her opinion, and how good couples are obtained as a result of drawing together such friends.
It is worth noting that in fact such unions are often stronger than others. Many people strike up relationships without really knowing each other, and then break up because of the “surprises” that have opened up to them. Friends, in turn, are, as a rule, already well aware of each other’s not best sides, and they have already entered into romantic relationships consciously.
When she loves another guy
The situation is rather complicated and with too harsh actions you can only do much harm. First, try to understand what kind of relationship binds the girl and her lover. If they are not a couple or he does not treat her very well in a relationship, because of which she suffers, then your chances are very high. Try to be near her as often as possible, showing your obvious advantages over the object of her sympathy. Be attentive to her, take an interest in her affairs, make surprises without hinting at a serious relationship. Most likely, if she will receive more attention from you than from the guy who originally interested her, her interest will be redirected to you.
When she said she likes me
In this case, the easiest way to act, because the girl has already given you a "green light". If you did not immediately orient, and did not admit reciprocal sympathy, then do not postpone this matter for later. Call her, write or invite to meet, admitting that you also like her a lot.
Compliments about her taste and figure
Every girl loves compliments, even if she does not admit it. Usually girls are attentive to the choice of their clothes, hairstyles, and you can pay her attention to the fact that you notice this and admire her taste. For example, you can say that she has a funny T-shirt, a very beautiful dress, shiny hair, cool jeans and the like. As a rule, girls like these words. Many representatives of the fair sex believe that they have a special eye color, and even if you do not even polish, still give the girl a compliment on this subject: "You have such a beautiful and interesting eye color." Make some comparison. If the eyes are green, then say that they have an emerald sheen, if blue - compare with the boundless sea, yellow - with the cat's eye, gray - with the alarming sky, in anticipation of the rain (specify that you like rain).
It is also important to note that many girls doubt their figure. however, your chosen one is happy with her, the confirmation of her thoughts will only please her. A very thin girl does not need to say: “Oh, you need to eat more, otherwise it will blow away”, instead say: “You are so fragile as Thumbelina! I like!". If a girl is inclined to be overweight, then on occasion, note that she has a perfect figure. If a girl often goes to the gym, say that this is noticeable, adding: "Probably the guys are turning their heads."
Flowers and commonplace amenities
Probably all girls love flowers, and if someone does not like bouquets, it is only because they prefer flowers in pots rather than cut flowers. Although someone on the contrary loves bouquets, not finding time and great traction in the move for domestic plants. However, most likely you will find out about this circumstance after handing the flowers, if you do not in passing take an interest in this in advance. Girls also love various goodies - find out about her tastes in person or in person, or by looking at a page on a social network (often you can determine by profile what exactly a person likes).
Write poems with a hint of love
If you do not have confidence in your own poetic abilities, then it is better to find the work of some classic - Asadov, Yesenin, Pushkin, Rozhdestvensky and so on. Let there be no more explicit declarations of love, but the topic should be close to that. You can send her the work by personal message in SMS or a social network, commenting that today you caught your eye and really liked it. At a minimum, the girl will consider that romance is not alien to you.
Invitation to the cinema or for a cup of coffee
This is already a very radical step, and if in previous cases the girl may still doubt your sympathy, then after such an invitation even the most unsuspecting person will suspect that you like her. Choose a cozy coffee shop where you can easily talk. If you are still not sure that because of the feelings that have gripped you, you can conduct a free conversation, then it is better to choose an art cafe where any music groups perform. You can also invite a girl to the cinema for an interesting premiere.
If you can’t decide to confess to a girl, although you assume that feelings can be mutual, then an SMS message can be a way out of the situation. For some girls, this option is even preferable because with “live” recognition, they are often lost and do not know how to react. In the case of a message, the girl will have the opportunity to think about her answer, and approach it carefully. However, subsequently, all important conversations with this girl, if you develop a relationship, it is better to conduct personally, so that she does not have the impression that you are afraid of any serious topics.
Help the girl without hinting at anything in return. Do this as if in passing, as if you had done it for a close relative or friend. Help can be very different. Perhaps she’s late somewhere, and you have the opportunity to give her a lift. It is possible that she has problems with the laptop, and you could repair it and so on.
Let her know that she is the best
This can be done by commenting, for example, on some star (it is better to avoid comparisons with real acquaintances, if they are not the obvious enemies of the girl). For example, she is delighted with some actress - note that you will not understand what she found in her. if she is much more beautiful. Or, especially emphasize her advantages: “I have never met a girl who cooks so deliciously”, “You have perfect growth”, “Go crazy, what is your eye color”, “You are so graceful, you must have been doing ballet?” And things like that.
You can say “love” in other words or actions
There are many ways to show your beloved your feelings. If you have a meeting in the cold season, or you work together - grab a glass of her favorite hot drink for her. If he gets sick, offer to bring her medicine or give her fruits (you can also through a friend or courier): "Eat vitamins, get better." Also, with a courier, you can send a bouquet of flowers on any occasion or "Just for the mood." Do not hesitate - such actions are likely to be appreciated.
To gently hint at a relationship, you need
Explain why it is special and you need it
Make it clear that you do not just want a relationship with a girl, but that she is interested in you. Tell us what you like most about her, why you think your couple has a chance for a happy relationship. Tell her about when you first realized that you like him, what exactly you felt. Girls especially like these stories.
Show how a woman is dear to you
It happens that words are not always enough, and many women no longer take words seriously. Therefore, do not neglect actions that could show her your true attitude towards her. Many men have forgotten what it means to “look after” a woman, thereby increasing the “price” of those who still do this.
Bend her to the first kiss
Most women believe that the beginning of a serious relationship is the first date or declaration of love, and the first kiss. If you bring your meeting to the conclusion that it ends with the first kiss (you can do this by saying goodbye by spending your chosen one home), then you could completely get her to you.
Express the desire that you want to see her next
Some women do not understand the hints or do not want to take them seriously, for fear of getting into an awkward position. Usually we are talking about adults, busy women or business women who do not have time to “pick up” your signals. In this case, it is best to say directly about your feelings.
What to do if a girl refuses
In this situation, of course, you need to behave like a man - not arranging scenes, not insulting a girl and not joking about her later in the company of friends. If you behave with dignity in this situation, then perhaps the girl will look at you from a completely different perspective and will soon want to be with such a balanced guy herself. If she refused, then just say: “Well, then the topic is closed.” If you were on friendly terms before, then you don’t need to avoid it now, behave as if nothing had happened, and do not return to this topic even with hints until it itself initiates such a conversation. If you haven’t talked before, then just periodically congratulate her on the social network with Happy New Year, Birthday and March 8, for example. If she has an interest in you, she will somehow let you know.
How to get in touch with a girl you like
Each case has its own characteristics, but there are generally accepted ways to hint a lady of heart on feelings.
Remember yourself in childhood or pay attention to how young children express sympathy for the opposite sex. They boldly make contact with the girl they like. Therefore, openness is the main step towards winning the young lady's heart.
Psychologists are sure that with the help of gestures you can show the girl that you like her, and, accordingly, understand whether she likes you.
When communicating with a girl, try to imperceptibly copy her gestures as if in a mirror image. Thus, at a non-verbal level, you will send her signals of your sympathy. Try to gently touch the young lady you like, straighten the stray lock of her hair, sweep the dust particles from the coat.
These signals will also tell the fair that you will take care of her in the future. Do not forget about the gaze of a man in love, but do not overdo it by drilling her eyes.
How to chat with the girl you like
After the long-awaited acquaintance took place, learn how to communicate with the girl you like.
To begin with, take an interest in what she is fond of. know what films she likes to watch, what music she listens to and what books she likes. Try to find out the features of her inner world. Sincerely show interest in her hobby. Learn all the little things about her. In communication, be gallant with a lady of the heart.
Learn to speak competently and do not use foul language. Young guys often use cursing in their speech to appear older and give themselves more meaning, but this has the opposite effect and speaks of your limitations and infantility.
- Develop a sense of humor. Girls like to be mixed. And the man is pleased to watch when the girl laughs and a beautiful smile appears on her face. Therefore, tell really funny, appropriate jokes and jokes. Make fun of her, but do it correctly. Otherwise, you will inadvertently offend her, and then the whole plan to win the lady of the heart will collapse.
- Enter the circle of her contacts, become a friend and comrade for her. Strong feelings grow out of friendship. She will feel that you are a real man and you can protect her in an unpleasant situation.
- Give the girl compliments more often. Remember that all women at any age spend a lot of time on their appearance. Therefore, pay attention to her haircut, beautiful manicure, new dress. Give compliments gallantly and appropriately. Learn from the older generation, read the necessary literature. Also compliment her as individuals, praise her successes and achievements. The girl was given a beautiful appearance by nature, and she achieved success herself, through labor and diligence. Do not forget about it!
- Invite a girl to a meeting. Choose the right place for the first time, such as a cozy cafe or movie theater. If you do not have the necessary funds, plan a walk in the park, where you can spend time without a lot of money. If she refuses you, do not despair, maybe she already has plans for this day, offer her another time to meet.
- At the first date, do not be too assertive and do not offer to meet immediately. Chat with her on abstract topics and at the same time watch her gestures and behavior. Make eye contact with her. When talking with a girl, look into her eyes. Be sincere in communication. If you see that she does not look away, smiles, does not shy away from answers, most likely, she is also disposed to communicate with you. So you're on the right track. But don't be obsessive. If you offered to take her home, but she refused, do not insist on this, limit yourself to taking her to the right stop of transport.
Following these simple tips, you can feel more confident on your first date. The main thing is not to be afraid and do not back down from your goal, even if it seemed that you did not impress the girl properly. After a date, call her or write a message on the social network, ask how she got home. This way you will show that you take care of her, and the girl will be pleased.
Watch her gestures. If she straightens her hair, touches her hair - this is a sign that she likes you. This also applies if a girl straightens her clothes. She tries to look better with you. So you are not indifferent to her.
How to admit to a girl that you like her
After several dates and a long friendship, it is time to find out how to admit to the girl that you like her. Invite her to a cafe and bring the girl to a frank conversation. Tell us about feelings and find out what she thinks about this. Give her time to think. It is likely that she will agree to start a serious relationship with you, as she accepts courtship. Perhaps she has long been waiting for a declaration of love from you and is ready to answer your feelings.
But if the girl refuses you, do not despair and continue to look after her. Perhaps she has not yet figured out her feelings, or she is restrained by past relationships. Find out the reasons for the refusal. Если проблема в тебе, попробуй исправить ошибки, поработав над собой. В жизни неоднократно случается так, что девушка, отказав парню в начале отношений, со временем соглашается на них, уступая напору юноши. Поэтому не опускай руки и не сдавайся. Помни, что ты сам кузнец своего счастья!