Morning is the best part of the day. Working parents of schoolchildren in this place will only grin. There is not enough time for anything, and the children get confused under their feet and, as if in spite, can not do anything quickly. I repeat, morning is the best part of the day, if everything is organized correctly. Try to put our advice into practice, and you will see that you can get your child to school without hassle.
Get enough sleep
The first and most important advice. Our well-being, mood and performance depend on the quality and quantity of rest. We didn’t get enough sleep - all day downhill. It is difficult to navigate when you need to say “stop” to household chores and go to the side? We talked about a convenient calculator that will help determine the right time to go to bed. For children, simply add another 2-3 hours to the resulting time. For example, if you and your child need to get up at 7 a.m., the baby should be in bed already at 20:00, and you go to bed no later than 22:00.
Pack in the evening
To get rid of a fair amount of morning stress, do everything you need the night before. For example, immediately after dinner, lay out what the household members take with them tomorrow, in containers and put them in the refrigerator. We have a week-long set of ideas for takeaway dinners, so you don’t have to bother with it. In the evening, make breakfast or preparations for it, so as not to waste time in the morning.
Children can collect their notebooks and textbooks, as well as prepare what they put on tomorrow. Select a separate place where all school supplies will be stored so that you do not need to look for where this time a backpack, replaceable shoes or lunch boxes are stocked. By the way, organize such a place for your things - running around the house looking for a phone or keys looks funny only for the first time.
Get up earlier than your kids
If you set the alarm 15-30 minutes earlier than the time of raising households, it will be much easier to enter the working rhythm. Ideally, you should have time to take a shower, get dressed and take a dose of caffeine. Come up with a morning ritual that will provide you with a good start to the day, and do it before the children wake up.
Just a list of everything you need to do in the morning. For young children, you can use pictures with actions instead of verbal descriptions.
- Brush your teeth.
- Do your hair.
- To wash.
- Get dressed.
- Have breakfast.
- To put on shoes.
- Take a backpack and a container with lunch.
When making a list, go through all the steps with the child, saying the importance of each step.
Set feasible tasks
Give the children instructions that they can handle. If an older child can take a shower and get dressed on his own, the baby will not be able to do it. Take into account children's opportunities and set reasonable deadlines for the task to be sure of its implementation. Encourage the child’s initiative in carrying out these assignments and do not do absolutely everything for him. Of course, dressing the baby will be much faster for you, but this is a bear service that discourages children from learning to learn new things.
The When-Then Rule
One of the most effective means in the parent's arsenal is the rule of sequentially performing actions with deferred remuneration. Or, if simpler, "When - then." This rule will help motivate the child to perform all morning duties, even such nasty ones as brushing your teeth or dressing. Hateful activities are interspersed with the most desirable - breakfast, games or watching cartoons. We determine that the child loves the most from the list of morning activities, and we make this possible only after doing the rest. For example, when the baby gets dressed and makes the bed, then everyone will sit for breakfast. Be sure of your firmness and determination, otherwise the use of the rule loses all meaning.
Children perfectly feel that you are in a hurry, and in contrast to this, involuntarily they begin to “slow down”. When things go awry, exhale, explain to your child why you need his help now, and calmly say what he has to do. Toddlers tend to copy our actions and the tone of the conversation, so if you notice for yourself that in the mornings you often talk in raised voices or show your displeasure with the help of slaps or jerks, try to reconsider your behavior.
Weekend is a holiday
On Saturday and Sunday, you can not strive at all costs to fulfill all the points of the traditional schedule. Just make sure that the children have a good night's sleep, and otherwise you can relax and step back from the usual scenario. Cook breakfast together, read a fairy tale to the children before they go to wash and brush their teeth, watch cartoons with their whole family, go to a cafe or go shopping. Come up with your children with entertainment options that will please every member of the family.
We cope with a thirst for attention
Children can strongly resist the established schedule, starting endless debates about what for breakfast, refusing to put on cooked things or just playing when you already need to be fully prepared for the exit. In the mornings, they often want their parents to give them a little attention, and resistance or inaction is guaranteed to help achieve what they want. There are several ways to satisfy both sides of the conflict - the child will receive a dose of your concern, and you can leave the house on time.
- Cheer and remind, but don't have to babysit. Let the child himself realize the consequences of his digging - a skipped breakfast, for example, or a forgotten notebook with homework.
- Arrange that you can watch TV only after all fees are completed.
- Use in children's alarm clock. So you will be sure that the child will get up at the same time every day and will not sleep if you wrap up and forget to wake him.
- Avoid notations. Questions like “What happens if you don’t get dressed in time?” And “How did you feel when you were late for the lesson?” Are much more effective in helping to engage the child in the dialogue. From tedious lectures I want to plug my ears, and independent reasoning helps to understand the relationship between the act and the result.
- Tell us about cases from your life when you put things off for later, and about the consequences of this procrastination. Such stories are very instructive for children.
- Plan ahead and give your child enough time to complete his tasks. Remember the importance of sober expectations.
- Let your child know that you need his help, and say that you will be very grateful if he gets dressed on time so that you can get to school. This invites cooperation, and does not provoke a protest.
A brief action plan for good parents
Here are a few questions that will tell you what is wrong with your morning.
- Do the children have their own list of morning activities and do they follow it? Will the kids fulfill their duties with great pleasure if the list of duties is arranged in the form of a colorful schedule?
- Are there any procedures that you and your children do every morning that you can do the night before? For example, choosing clothes, preparing and packing lunch, packing a backpack, and so on.
- Do you have time in peace and quiet to drink a cup of coffee until the moment the children wake up?
There are no right or wrong answers. The purpose of these questions is simply to help you figure out the state of things and understand what can be changed to make good morning for you and the whole family.
Check your household’s sleep schedule and make sure no one suffers from lack of sleep. Just a few weeks of normal sleep will help you understand how much easier it is to get up. Discuss with your family the importance of everyone's efforts to ensure that everyone is in a good mood and ready on time. Come up with weekend entertainment ideas together so everyone can look forward to those days.
Attempts to establish a morning routine at first can frighten off imaginary laboriousness, but the ease with which you and your children will be going to gather after a while justifies the efforts expended in full. Your morning from the most disgusting will turn into the calmest time and will be a great start to a good day.
“I love it when mom wants a good day before school.”
This is truly an invaluable habit. Good wishes set you up for positive and teach your family to think about each other.
Pay attention to what you say to each other, breaking up in the morning. "Well, that's it, gone faster, soon a lesson!". "OK Bye". "To call before going out ...". "Behave there normally."
It is very easy to form a good, positive breakup with one simple phrase: “Have a nice day.” And going to school is easy and enjoyable!