In that case, if the girl is older than me, and I am by nature a soft, laconic, intelligent guy. How, being yourself, without pretending to be macho and self-confident, to win the sympathy of a girl and attract her attention and start a relationship and show that I am a serious guy and set up for a long relationship?
In addition, I’m not talkative, so for a long time and exciting to talk, too, can not. I am used to communicating with people to listen to them, while maintaining a conversation, then I give a person the opportunity to speak out while listening carefully to him. Although I have something to tell and something to share, an exciting story does not work out. I used to speak on business and not promise that I could not fulfill.
How to behave, what to say to a girl who is older than me in order to correspond to her, without putting on masks, because I am such a person that as soon as I have to do what I don’t feel like, then there is uncertainty in the actions, I begin to stumble in words, I behave in a word unnatural.
The question is how, exactly, is it worth behaving towards the girl so that the girl takes my intentions and behavior seriously and reciprocates? Or how can you make your own character traits, your young age your advantage in the eyes of a girl with experience in relationships? By the way, I’ve never met girls, but it doesn’t scare or stop me at all, it’s just for the girl it will be noticeable and she will understand everything, therefore she doesn’t want to “face the dirt”. It’s just that I’m conservative in life, I don’t really want to change anything, and I don’t really want to meet a lot of girls just for the sake of experience. Yes, I believe in single love. I will be 20 soon, but to the opinion of those around me, I don’t care about “why does such a guy still have no girlfriend?”. Among those whom I met were not those with whom it was interesting to talk, who were ambitious like me, and did not wait for them to just get married successfully and that was all. Therefore, I did not want to waste time and spend it with those who simply were not interested. And down with just a craving for girls. I met several girls who were directly of a model appearance and themselves were glued to me, but as with people, alas, it was boring to communicate with them, and they were too arrogant and domineering. Maybe I'm waiting for a big and bright love.
Be yourself. Of course, it does not hurt to get rid of bad manners and habits. But, if you pretend to be someone, sooner or later your real “I” will come up. And people can take you for a liar, and it’s very difficult to restore an “honest name”.
Do not communicate with only one group of people
In addition to communicating with old friends, it is necessary to communicate with other people. More often make new friends. Do not be shy.
Don't be afraid to be a little noisy, just don't overdo it. To be quiet means to be closed. Which is very bad for someone who wants to be the best. But do not take this advice literally and yell at all that is urine.
Do not dress like a “girl of easy virtue”
For some reason, in our time it has become popular to dress too openly. Think yourself, do you want people to love you or your open outfit?
Communicate with bright people more often. Pay attention to their behavior. Allocate for themselves those skills that would not hurt you.
Be a little spontaneous. Flirt more often with guys. Just flirt. It cheers up and self-esteem.
Chat with everyone around you. Seeing a stranger, say “Hello!” To him. Instinctively, he will answer you the same. In the eyes of this person you will remain mysterious. And at the next meeting it will be easier for you to start a conversation with him.
Be more diverse.
For example, listen to different types of music so that you have more topics to talk with other people.
Be passionate about nature. Go in for sports, drawing, music. Be socially active.
Be friendly to everyone.
Help everyone. And someday they will help you.
Every morning, give yourself compliments, looking in the mirror.